explore · Personal Development, Reflection, Problem Solving · 30–95 min · Any size, in groups of four · low energy

Talking with Pixies

In groups of four, one person describes a crossroads they face. One person interviews them while two others, the pixies, sit behind and listen. The pixies then speak aloud, as if whispering, the beliefs and assumptions they suspect are holding the person back, playfully and without advice. The person reflects on what landed. Roles rotate until everyone has had a turn.

When to use Talking with Pixies

Use when people are stuck at a personal or professional crossroads and need to see the beliefs that keep them there.

What it solves

People stay stuck on a decision because the real obstacle is an assumption they cannot see themselves.

How to run Talking with Pixies, step by step

  1. Introduce the structure and its purpose (1 min).
  2. Each person reflects alone on a crossroads or goal they are stuck on (2 min).
  3. Demonstrate one round with volunteers in front of the room (6 min).
  4. In quartets, the first person describes their crossroads (3 min).
  5. The interviewer asks the displayed questions while the pixies listen (4 min).
  6. Pixies whisper aloud the hidden beliefs they suspect, then share insights with the person (5-6 min).
  7. The person reflects on what landed. Rotate roles and repeat for each person (3 min per round).
  8. Whole group shares what they noticed (4 min).

Materials needed

  • Four chairs per group
  • Interview questions on display
  • Steps on a slide

Facilitator tips

  • Use it only where there is already trust. People are sharing real doubts.
  • Pixies explore assumptions with lightness and curiosity. They do not give advice.
  • The demonstration matters. People need to see what a pixie whisper sounds like.

Common pitfalls

  • Pixies slide into diagnosing or fixing the person.
  • Running it with a group that does not know each other well enough.

Variations

  • Combine with Spiral Journal as preparation before the quartets.

Running it online or hybrid

Possible in breakout rooms of four. Pixies turn their cameras off while whispering so the speaker hears them as voices.

What it produces

Each person's own insight into the beliefs and competing commitments behind their stuckness.

Origin

Co-developed by Ian Prinsloo, Keith McCandless and members of the Seattle Liberating Structures user group. — source

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